FEEL GOOD FACTOR----- NEED OF THE HOUR

To day, after having a cup of tea & having message from the media that in forthcoming 2-5 months we will be comparatively in better situation,I really felt happy .

“Feel Good factor”-— I uttered.. In this adverse situation– need of the hour– I murmured within self…

This pandemic had changed our lives completely. These changes are being reflected through loss of our lives,destruction of economy, change in the class/caste structure . This led us to have an urgency for the struggle for our existence. To be fit to fight against this pandemic situation & to survive.

“Feel good Factor” can obviously be useful & helpful to enable us leading a healthy life even during an adverse situation in the following way.....

1. It, as a +ve psychological aspect help in producing “Endorphins(a chemical produced by the nervous system) to fight against our stress/pain.
2. It would help in better sleeping(to reduce sleeping disorder) to rejuvenate ourselves.
3. It increases your power of “Resilience“(power of bouncing back from difficult situation and overcome hardship)
4. Feeling happy acts as catalyst for producing “Oxytocin hormone” which further increases bonding between us & you all know it is known therefore as Love/cuddle hormone.
5. You might be knowing the impact of having “High Self Esteem”. People with high self esteem take higher risk & learn from the failure instead of getting frustrated. A frustrated person can’t do anything in life. People having skill of feeling good always irrespective of situation enhances their inner potentialities & get himself ready for the next forthcoming opportunity.
6. Happiness & cheerful attitude lower down the risk of anxiety,high Hypertension,shortness of breathing, cardio attack etc…
7. Help internalising preference “Accepting” over “Expecting”. we know that one of the factor for our being unhappy is– Expectation & not being able to accept the reality when not met.

According to Sigmund Freud— The inner conflict is due to Id, Ego & super Ego(psychological Component of personality). Id is based on pleasure seeking principle/primitive instinct & when desire something(drive on Id) to be gratified then “Ego”(based on reality principle) try to mediate & we come to know the reality,accept the situation & accept it as it is. Practice of feel good factor will enhance you & make you dynamic to be happy as per the situation.

These are some of the impact & if we go on listing, it will go further which implies the requirement of it in our life especially when daily news of death,our economic instability & uncertain future really takes us to an emotionally fragile state. Moreover, due to the stressful situation, positive psychological aspects —“happiness,traits,interests,+ve relationship etc have been substituted gradually by negative psychological factors like “Anxiety”, “depression””conflict”,”uncontrollability of our behaviour & patience”.

No one can deny that these are affecting our social factors also and creating imbalance in social support system, institute like family & our cultural belief.

Well,the importance of feel good factor thus unavoidable but in what way, we can internalise it in our daily life for the sake of better living? Let us have a look —

1. Meditation:-

I would n’t go for the details of it as all know the impact of it. When you have plenty of time then why n’t practice it? You not need the specialist person to teach you. Just sit comfortably,close your eyes, start the process inhale & exhale. Do it & see the better you if you can practise it continuously. Need to say more??? Not at all as you know.

2. Practice -" POSITIVE AFFIRMATION”:-

This is one   e.g of phrases you need to practice/repeat again & again & inturn you will be empowered to to take step against obstacles. For e.g– “Start saying– Yes! I can”……. Impossible is the word which is found only in foolish dictionary & if you break the word it is -I –AM –POSSIBLE”. No-way there exists any scope of not possibility…

3. GRATITUDE:-

In this materialistic world, what we are lacking day by day is showing our “Gratitude”. Gratitude has linkage with feeling happiness, save you from loneliness, managing your stress.

Express your gratitude everyday for the life you have been given by the grace of “God”, Convey you thanks for the nice family/neighbours you have, Convey your thanks to the health workers/police & others -protecting us during this pandemic. Your little appreciation might be bouncing back a blessing from the hundreds of societal members- extending their helping hands towards you thus make you feel within the safety net..

4.Be Trustworthy:-

It takes time to establish good & positive relationship but your trying will n’t be based on any cheating or hurting people.

5. It is better to find out good & +ve nature in everything instead of finding fault & involving in negative criticism…

6. Believe in SELF:-

There is a saying– if you don’t love yourself,don’t believe in yourself then no one would believe you. First try to believe that you have the strength/inner potentialities within yourself. Every one goes through a bad phases to some extent. The entire world is passing through the adverse situation. But during this period, don’t be lazy. Involve yourself with some activity what you like most or you have never tried. This is the best time to sharpen your skill & to get yourself ready for the forthcoming days.

Believe me, it is the high time for you to display some introspection regarding your consciousness related to your strength & you will flourish as a result of it.

7. Stay tune at present:-

Our past is dead and future is unseen. What you have only the present. So emphasize on present. American Writer-“Del Carnegie” had also mentioned in one of his writing that instead of planning for long future & getting frustrated, it’s better to plan & live for the day.

Every morning after waking up, we should say- “We want to live for the day beautifully” & would try all the way ot make it nice & rememberable”….

8.  Start your day with a “SMILE”:-

Need n’t to say.. It costs nothing but we forget. Practice it to the extent possible & discover the difference within you.

9. Turn on & Off your brain/Switch on & Off your mindset:-

Suppose, Lockdown & Isolation made you anxious,frustrated. It might raise your blood pressure level high. What would you do?

Just learn the skill of switching off your mind from the source which make you anxious & switch your mind on toward any golden moment of the past or hoping to get a golden day soon.

You can also practise one process. Re-call the moment/stimulus which make you uncomfortable & let it be continuing. Then switch it off & reluxe yourself for a while. Continue this process & there will be a time when you will feel desensitized towards that stimulus. But for that identification of stimulus , responding mechanism & relaxation process is there. So, better to adopt switch on & off of mind.

10. Empathy:-

Empathy is feeling with a person & taking yourself in the position of a person to feel the actual situation.

Try to feel the role of health workers/Police person/Children facing situation like starvation. Your moral standard will be upgraded & you might be welcoming the health worker who returns back after his/her duty during pandemic or you might n’t be breaking the rules during lock down or perhaps you would be involving yourself for contributing to the orphanage to save those children from starvation. The moment people would have “EMPATHY”, believe me most of the unsolved problems in our society will get momentum towards the path of diminishing.

I could remember one “Teacher” who used to define types of people.

Ist type- Take time to understand , but implement, once it is understood.

2nd type— Understand quickly but will n’t implement or follow gradually.

3rd type– Will show the attitude of knowing everything still n’t following in life.

4th type— Believe learning at every step of life, like to remind or find immense pleasure in reminding & follow it quickly if forgotten or discontinuing anyway.

I don’t know in which category you are belonging or you have any other category but remember in-spite of all knowledge if you are suffering from unstable life based on tension,frustration/anxiety, it is because all of your knowledge are in your thought process or subconscious mind. You have n’t implemented yet.

Everyone like to lead a good and healthy life. When we consider a person  “good”, we take  granted  his moral conception of good over all materialistic world or consider himself as a self n’t only thinking for himself or his families, equally involving in some activities-benefiting others.

It definitely render social message—- think positive, be optimistic,do  some good work, be virtuous—- Have feel good factors.

So, if you lost peace of mind & thinking of recharging it for your healthy life keeping pain/stress under your control …by .. internalising feel good factor .. .. then……………..

      ——————– YOU ARE———————