5 reasons why you should follow Thinking for self & Listen to self(TSLS).

 

Listening to self & living for yourself? Have you lost your sense? Does n't it reflect the self- centred nature of human being which is against the nature of human being as a social animal?

You might be wondering with these kind of questions- Right?

Before that, let me tell you an incident that happened in my life. During training session, we all participants had been given a topic- "Our pleasant moment & our likes". Believe me, 98% participants including me tried to link it with our nature of job & articulated in that way. Only 2% could give the correct answer.

Later trainer explained the necessity to take a break from work & to emphasise on our feelings/value/needs/likes and dislikes. This will in-turn make us more productive in rendering our services ta the professional level & to live a healthy life.

If you are still here, together we can find out good impact of Listening to self & Living for self(LS). Definitely it would have a value in our life & provide us a direction to lead our life in a more happy & prosperous way.

Decision making:-

Decision making plays an important role in our life. As we all know it is related to our cognitive process having an impact on our belief/value/attitude etc.

Now , I want to ask you-- how many times in your life you have taken decision by yourself?

In case of blogging also, we might be confused regarding whether to start hobby blogging or professional one or What niche we should choose because we need traffic. Even you might be worried if you fail to follow the systematic pattern of publishing your article on time-- twice a week, quarterly,monthly.

Oh! come -on friends. Don't you think that you are in between all those, you are perhaps missing one important aspect?

Yes my dear friends definitely i.e- TSLS (thinking for self & living for self). Taking a decision that would reflect our inner feelings/belief, respect towards self & passion- above all.

I am not taking for those persons taking decision, driven by their own instinct followed by gratifying their unfulfilled desire.

I have gone through the interview session of the life style of some bloggers. You would n't believe some of them are even engineers from a premier institute who had not gone in the traditional way of earning. Instead they have chosen "Blogging" as their full -time career .

Adopting "TSSL" on decision- making strategy reflect our believing in our own potentialities,make us a feeling to explore in our own way & to feel a happy life.

Image creation:-

If you go through the definition of Health by WHO, you would find an aspect-- "Social Well-being".

How is it related with our topic? Well, let me explain.

As a social animal, we need to be in continuous interaction between our family,friends or with community. This two -way communication is inevitable for our own existence. In the two-way communication process there are senders & receivers.

As a sender, you would be in a better position reflecting your ideas/ beliefs in a way that is impressive which in turn create an atmosphere for the rapport building stage in making a strong relationship.

It is possible when you have self good & positive image & it comes when you become little introspect about your own motives & choose a way for modifying negative one.

Our own positive image is necessary while communicating because sender can understand it or otherwise they might take our attitude as not trustworthy/fake/not transparent & not taking to be granted.

EMPATHY:-

In to-days life when we all have accustomed in either using or at-least hearing this catchy word.

Even we know that person with lack of Empathy might have a tendency to be sociopath or psychopath or autism.

But do tell me one thing-- how a Person not having feelings towards self can have a feeling with others?

How many times does we feel with our inner feelings? During Pandemic also, we might have seen where peoples action proved to be less empathetic. I have mentioned in one of my previous blogging how an old person died due to lack of helping attitude by the neighbours.

You might have also noticed the impact of racism & brutality in some other countries. All these reflect lack of empathy as one of causative factor. Do that person ever became introspect regarding their action & its impact on others? If you collect their lifestyle history & analyse it, one unavoidable factor would emerge-- Not listening to themselves, not have the courage to ask self for their present unsocial instinct & channelling towards positive factors like --Empathy.

PESSIMISM:-

This word reflects always a scaring & negative feelings. People hate this word & neglect those people believe on this concept. Even I sometime had a feelings like you. But "TSLS" and pessimism can show us the way to be more productive,success & happy individual.

For e.g:-

Adolescent , as we know suffer from identity crisis & their action are influenced by peer pressure. This with their "risk taking behaviour" aggregates the situation when they are out of their self- control & commit mistake. During my service in an observation home, I have seen teenagers deviated from the societal accepted norms & values.

you can mention that intellectual development is not at per the physical development.

But if through training or in their learning process, an initiative can be taken to learn emphasis on self thinking/creating good & positive self -image supported by practising of positive affirmation then it would save themselves to be a juvenile delinquent.

Here thinking for self & cognitive strategy to predict the forthcoming impact would not only take someone away from their actions but also encourage to adopt a strategy to deal with that crisis. This cognitive strategy can be mentioned as "Defensive -Pessimism"

It is not like that we don't follow this combination of Defensive pessimism & Thinking for self. In our daily life, We follow this cognitive strategy to avoid or face obstacles..

For e.g-- in times of heavy raining, we generally abstain from going outside or take umbrella or rain-coat as precaution.

or for e.g during Pandemic we don't go outside during lock-down and don't forget to take necessary documents & masks in case of emergency.

Here people not only predict the future impact but also prepare/empower themselves in facing the challenge.

SELF-INDEPENDENCE:-

Perhaps there will be some one who does not love his independence. If we go through our life cycle -right from birth/childhood to adulthood, we would find the basic motto in our life -i.e- authority leading towards our self reliant.

The urgency towards our self -construal takes us towards adopting cognitive process for defining self. Within the defining self parameter, inclusion of other aspects like - our immense desire to have authority on our thoughts/belief/opinion/perception may be marked as significant.

If we go to the example of Bloggers who choose niche to express their inner- feelings or Bloggers chosen it as a full- time profession, we can find better examples. In both case, they used their authority to express self desire through reflecting authoritative control on their feelings/perception and self- respect. In both case influential negative factors from outside have not been taken into granted.

Obviously, when we know ourselves better, value our belief, show self- love then we become assertive. We literally become independent in running our life towards happiness & prosperity.

Thus "TSLS"(Thinking for self & Listening to self) acts as a catalyst in achieving self- reliance & leading life without the influence of other inimical factors in our life.

"TSLS"(Thinking for self & listening to self) can't be used as negative connotation &hold responsible anymore to make person-self centred, less empathise or incapable for social grooming.

People react with good manner or in a well way when they feel well in terms of their social, mental,physical aspects. In our busy materialistic life if you become exhausted,feeling less energetic, aimless, fragile-- then its time to take a break. Its time to rejuvenate yourself by being an introspect to hear your own inner- feelings, be an active listeners of yourself.

Because We should not forget a good "I" can make better -"WE" and better "WE" can eventually create a best "COMMUNITY"

Dear friends if you are still here, then let's have emphasise on fact -finding of to-days topic.

• Thinking for self & listening to self is inevitable in our life,especially in present context.
• This "TSLS" creates a value within the cognitive functioning relating to our mental process of judgement towards authority for self.
• It enhances social grooming by presenting a good & positive self- image to the receiver for better communication & social interaction.
• Combination of TSLS & defensive pessimism helps in our soothing process to find best alternative for removing our discomfort/unpleasant stimulus.
• "TSLS" also helps in maintaining a balance in our personal & professional life by creating a boundary between "Workaholic" & "Self- Care". As a result We can have the feeling of complete & functional human being. If you have read it then I would like to convey my thanks to you & would like to ask you a question. I am going to follow this for the betterment of life. Wanna do?

Your feedback is welcome & it means a lot to me. Together we can grow up in this blogging world.

Thank you.