10 best ways to develop Consistency and positivity in our life..

 

On quora, I just had gone through a question about how one can develop consistency & positivity.

we can't deny the fact that whether we be bloggers, writers, players, engineers, unemployed--all we need are these two terms-consistency & positivity for our happy & prosperous life. If you know it all the way still I will request you to join the discussion & through your valuable participation add some points which might be a good guide for the youth/other people looking for it. Secondly, when good things are ahead of us or we discussed them, our brain gives us the signal of reminding us of the need of applying in our life. Let us find the best possible ways to develop consistency & positivity.

What is consistency & positivity:-

Well. As we know consistency means (in my layman's concept) behaving in the same way & positivity means -being hopeful or optimistic in our attitude.

Now as consistency means behaving in the same way, we have the responsibility also in channelizing it towards the positive path so that we can have maximum benefit. Consistency can't be mentioned as a skill or any hidden talent. You can have direct control over it.

Now, consistency theory was originally introduced by Fritz Heider, in social psychology-that people have their motivation, belief, desire to maintain consistency & they try to avoid tension in order to reach a pleasant psychological state or balance.

For eg- Mr X is an alcoholic & his family members got him admitted to a rehabilitation centre. Now, there he came to know from series of sessions with a counsellor that it is alcohol that is at the root for all his evils. He can't be with his family & gradually his health is deteriorating. Now becoming conscious, he developed a tension between his two believes.. One is enjoying alcoholism & 2nd is its bad impact. To attend psychological balance he had taken the decision of giving it up. Here he took this decision of giving up.

As we saw, This theory reflects the idea that human beings are motivated by the inconsistencies that create contradiction & tension & they(human beings) tend to change his belief, attitude, behaviour to remove psychological imbalances.

O.K Now let's find out the possible ways to develop consistency & positivity.

1.Planning and scheduling of activities.

Scheduling of activities as per plan can help us to be master in achieving consistency towards positivity.

2. Believing in self.

One must believe in self & create a positive self-image. As per the theory of "Self-consistency" by P. Lecky- People use their self-helping measures to attend consistency. What you need is a master motive to regulate your thoughts & ideas to be consistent towards positivity.

3. Keep you isolated from some persons.

Yes. It is right. There might be some persons around you who only try to criticize you, find out faults purposefully not for the sake of your development but due to their attitude of annoying others. In our society we often meet with these types of persons & they may be our friends, colleagues, relatives. Cut off your relationship with them will definitely help you to be on the track.

4. To be in the network of well-wishers:-

Believe me, Good people & well-wishers will make you feel positive by encouraging, modifying your negative thoughts.

5. Accept & ignore criticism

Is not it contradictory?? Not at all. As we have seen we are also surrounded by good & trustworthy people who might criticize our act not for the sake of feeling low but for our betterment. They are our real friends & guide. Accept healthy criticism & ignore others

6. Practice a positive affirmation:-

As per motivational author-Louise Hay--"I deserve the best & I accept it now-------"

Develop positive affirmation like--yes, I can. Daily practice of positive affirmation will surely bring confidence & a high self-image that will keep us always positive irrespective of the situation.

7. Gratitude.

Be grateful to the sun for providing us sunlight, be grateful to the wind for providing us oxygen. Have gratitude towards everything that helps you to be on the earth & defying you as a human being.

8. Inculcate the habit of reading.

Go through success stories, valuable writings of great persons like--Swami Vivekananda, Del Carnegie etc. Their writings will provide you immense strength to be consistent towards achieving your objective. In youtube, there are josh talks where ordinary but successful persons use to describe how they faced barriers & became successful.

According to Swami Vivekananda--"Believe in yourself & the whole world will be at your feet"

9.Be optimistic:-

The world is not finished with our failure. Thousands of doors are opened. Even in pandemic, many new opportunities have been opened up. Be hopeful, be optimistic. At the end of the night always there are dawn & sunny days..

10. Don't hurt others:-

Don't inflict pain on others. It might get back to you in any way. Better to live honestly & think positively.

But friends, I will never appreciate being consistent positive in a toxic situation. suppose, i) you are in an organization where there exists a toxic environment. You alone can't change it & so it would be better to be a job hopper.

ii) you are in a relationship where you are being tortured, humiliated day by day. There you shouldn't concentrate more & more to stay on the relation with a positive or optimistic attitude. Simply you should come out from the relation for the sake of gaining a high self-image & to maximize your sense of cognitive balance.

 However, consistency is required in our life & if this can be led towards positivity with daily practice then definitely it will have a good impact on our life.